" adults shouldn't have hobbies "

is one of the most stupidest things that i have ever heard in my entire life. the fact that people are literally thinking that it's weird that a person have a hobby is just plain stupid for some reason to me.

because the fact is that.. it doesn't matter how old you are.. you can be in your 20's, 30's, 40's, 50's and older you can have a hobby that you love.

if you like playing video games, like watching cartoons, hell even crochet or set your stuffed animals in a corner, that's perfectly fine! the fact that people always stereotype is insane. sometimes men don't want to fish, hunt, play golf. maybe they want to skateboard, play video games, or build legos or some shit. sometimes women don't want to shop, watch crime documentaries, or just apply on makeup. sometimes they want to crochet, as I said play video games, or write.

if you don't have a hobby that's fine, that's the reason why it's called a hobby, for you to literally explore and find yourself, to literally find something that takes you happy that makes you excited to do something.

there's different things that people can do.. but shaming someone cause they said that they are taking a skateboarding class? no hobby have an age limit. no skateboarding isn't just for teenage boys that are 13 or 15. no girls don't want to wear makeup or shop around.

i'm ranting about this cause i saw this video of one of the people that i look at talking about this topic of tiktoker's saying that adults shouldn't have hobbies, and it rubbed me the wrong way and it kinda irritated me because.. of the stereotypes and shit.

the fact that you're making fun of a guy that wants to do something that makes him happy, saying that it's weird or whatever.. while you're literally at a concert texting on your phone. like the fuck?

not only that when i was growing older i was like still in elementary school during that time, i had literally stopped playing with my toys or dolls because i thought that they were too childish for me, all because i was kinda getting laughed at by my cousin that was the same age as me. she always thought that i was always trying to follow her, but the thing is that it was never that.. now storytime

she had used to come over my house every other weekend cause her mom said that she wanted to come over. my family was nice, very nice. and before i had a house fire, i had a whole entire room that had lots of dolls, video games and etc.. like i had a shelf for all the DVDs and CDs, and a Wii Nintendo system.

i had two bookshelves of all the books that i had gotten from the book fair at school, plus more that my mom bought, i had dolls, a little play kitchen and etc. so, we used to watch cinderella, the one where anastasia got her a man or whatever, and we would always play around or whatever. i had introduced her to big time rush, cringe, but i was a little fan of them when i was a kid, so i had showed her that or whatever..

all i know is that when we got back to school, she would be so mean to me for no fucking reason, and so after a while i do remember that i had went over to her house, cause i had told my mom how rude she'll be and i felt uncomfortable with being around her, she definitely told me that i didn't have to have her over anymore but she always would ask me first if i ever wanted to sleepover at her house and etc. the only time that i had said yes, all i remember is that my cousin mom had well.. she hit us with a stenting cord and it hurted.

i told my mom, and she got pissed off and that was the last time i ever remember hanging with her cause her mom left and she was under her grandma afterwards.

now, as i was growing up.. i had grown and felt like i was too big or too far to even be playing with those dolls, and i had put them in a trash bag and stuffed them in my closet. but, i had kept some of my stuffed animals out. now, if i would change anything it would be me trying to grow up fast. i would've been happy just growing out them slowly than to satisfy myself thinking that i'm too big to be playing with them.

but, another thing too. i did carry some of my childhood stuff with me as an adult. yes, i still have stuffed animals, and bitch i don't care, those are my babies 😌💅🏾 and i think everyone knows this but i fucking love cartoons. i love them alot and i find it weird that people think that it's baby-ish to watch cartoons.. like no?

there are adult animations.. but sometimes people want to relax and not think about the shit that is going on with their lives and wanna just cut on a good ass episode of spongebob or courage the cowardly dog. that's their safe place, their safe haven, it's their time to let their mind rest and to not have to worry about their reality. and yes, i did spend my paycheck getting something that i wanted.. i wanted the Wii Nintendo system and i had invested myself in getting one to make me happy.

and that's okay. that's a time for you to heal, that's a time for YOU to be happy. don't listen to what these people say, they are miserable and bland as fuck if they think that shopping all day is a hobby or applying lipstick ( their words not mine ) over and over again is a hobby.

you shouldn't have to lie on someone faking a hobby, cause what if that person actually wanted to try it with you? like actually willing to try something that you like for a change? it's not a red flag for someone to ask you what your hobby is.. and it shouldn't be overall.

so, go out there and find you a hobby. find something that makes you happy, find something that will get that tension out of you. because YOU deserve it. YOU deserve to have a peace of mind, and you shouldn't let anyone take that away from you. don't be ashamed or scared to admit it. you need time to yourself.

it's okay for you to be alone and do activities of your liking. you shouldn't want to have your husband, boyfriend or family member with you 24/7.. like that'll be annoying sometimes, at least a couple of hours to yourself. because your bond will grow stronger each time you guys give each other space.

like y'all on wattpad. that's a hobby that we all like one way or another. we like to read fanfics, write books, rp, talk to people and etc. that's literally a hobby in itself.. so, go out get a breath of some good ass air and find yourself a hobby that you'll enjoy, don't listen to these dumbass bitches talking about it being weird and that you shouldn't have them.

anyways.. i love y'all ^^ ❤️