Imma say this loud and clear for the people in the back:

To all the people staying in toxic relationships either because they don't want to hurt their toxic partners or because you think if you stay and show them that you love them so much they'll change and be better and that these people are the only people who matter to you, ya'll are stupid as hell.

Note: this is exclusive to people who know that their relationship is choose to stay hoping for something good to come out of it. Not people who know that they are in toxic relationships but don't have a choice to leave it. And I'm talking about toxic relationships that you can easily leave with no hassle.

Like you can see the toxicity radiating from this person from a mile away and you still decide to stay with regardless of them doing the same shit to hurt you over and over again and giving these mafuckas excuses like: they're just misunderstood. They had a rough life growing up. They're going to change for me. They can't live without me and I can't live without them. I love them.

Bruh😒

You do know that you're putting your mental health at risk, right? There are people who actually commit suicide because they can't handle the mental and emotional abuse from toxic relationships. Heck! A person can actually kill themself just because their partner had been cheating on them for years.

And ya'll want to give excuses to justify these mofos toxicity?

That's why these assholes be taking you for granted and will continue to hurt you. Y'all just let them off easy with no consequences or letting them know that they're hurting you.

First off: the fact that these people had it rough growing up and are misunderstood should NOT be an excuse for them to be shitty towards you. Like if the person did have it rough and is misunderstood but they're making an effort to better themselves: then maybe they get a pass.

But if the mother fucker had it rough and is misunderstood but doesn't do jack shit to better themselves. Congratulations: you're dating a toxic asshole.

Second: you can't change a person. You don't have the right nor are you in any position to change a nigga. Only THEY get to decide on whether they want to change or not. And just because that person changed FOR YOU doesn't me that you actually changed them. You're merely just a catalyst that encouraged and influenced them to change. Otherwise whether the person wants to change or not it's all up to them. Not you. And for the love of everything holy on earth: YOU ARE NOT THEIR THERAPIST OR DOCTOR. YOU DON'T HAVE THE RIGHTS TO FIX THEM.

Lastly: you can live without that person and that person can live without you. Ya'll were born separately and yall will die separately. If that person tell you that they can't live without you: then it's most likely that they're emotionally blackmailing you into not leaving them. Your life doesn't resolve around them just as their life doesn't resolve around you.

And the sad thing is: a lot of these people who still stay in such toxic relationships are the ones who rely on relationships to feel validated when in reality you don't always need to be in a relationship to do so. You need to love yourself before you can love someone else. You need to know your worth.

But will you know your worth?

Easy ask yourself this: did I do anything wrong? Do I deserve to be cheated on? Do I deserve to be treated like an option and a backup plan? Do I deserve to be treated like shit? 

If the answer to all those questions is no: then you know you're worth way more than you think and if you feel like you won't get what you deserve from this person then that's enough motivation to help you stand up for yourself and leave.

But if people point out that your relationship is toxic and are advising you to leave it but you choose to ignore and stay: then you're responsible for your own pain and heart breaking. Just saying.