One of the other pet peeves I have towards protagonists is when they decide to either lie or avoid their friends or love interests to push them away.

I'm talking about intentionally or unintentionally hurting these people to protect themselves from heartbreak or thinking that it best for both parties.

For example, a girl had been crushing on her close friend for God knows how long but hadn't said shit coz of fear of rejection (which is understandable) and still settles to be the friend if it means she won't lose the home boi. But she tries hard not to fall deeper for the nigga but fails dismally because feelings. So let's say that the homie is moving away in a month and obviously that's going to hurt the sistah coz it means that will be the last time she'll see him. Or we can say that she knows that the home boi doesn't love her back and will probably never see her as anything else but a friend and it's only going to hurt her more because one sided and unrequited love hurts like a bitch.

And what does she do? She decides to distance herself and avoid the brutha, heck even act like a the homie is a stranger, or worse lie to them, with hopes that he will forget about her and move on. But in actual reality it's hurting him in the process. Making him feel like he did something wrong and wonder what he did to be tossed aside like a toy and not knowing why.

And all this would be avoided IF THE SISTAH TOLD HIM THE TRUTH AND HER REASONS.

COMMUNICATION 👏🏽IS 👏🏽AN 👏🏽IMPORTANT 👏🏽FACTOR 👏🏽IN 👏🏽ALL 👏🏽RELATIONSHIPS 👏🏽.

I get that it's hard confess your feelings to your crush since erbody is afraid of rejection, a shift and change in your relationship with these people and possibly losing them in the process after making a move like that but distancing and ghosting them? Lying to them? Doing shit to hurt them in order to push them away or hate you?

Has anyone stopped to think about how any of these people will get affected by shit like this. Them feeling like they did something wrong when they didn't. Them wondering what could have happened that caused you to change and treat them that way. Them feeling used. Them feeling like shit and like no one would give a shit about them.

I dunno about ya'll but if shit like that ever happened to me and my homies provided a shitty justified decent reason for what they did I don't think I'll ever forgive them. People like that have no right to make people feel shitty and miserable.