Ladies...gentlemen...non binaries...

If you ever have feelings or are in love with someone who intentionally or unintentionally hurts you emotionally to the extent you have to go for weekly therapy sessions with your senior in college or university, your mentor or any of your closest friends and family members who you can confide in in matters like these....

Run.

Flee the damn country.

Change your identity.

Okay I'm over exaggerating but you get the point.

If whoever this person's causing you this much emotionally traumatizing pain to that extent, that's a crimson flag right there and a hint that you should get outta there before shit gets ugly because shit will definitely get ugly if you stay in it. Trust me. I've been there with a guy who quickly moved on with someone else since I wasn't ready to date.

I'm a first year student and the first I had to deal with was boy drama worse than my relationship with my toxic ex boyfriend Elliot back when I was sixteen and that shit took me until early this year to close that chapter when I was about to move to South Africa for university.

Though I wasn't officially dating the brutha, the way the whole mess I went through the three months I was in uni was something else. It got to a point that I got desperate enough to hookup with another brutha so I can forget about him (No. I slept with no one coz I know better than sleeping with someone I'm not going to marry).

I even lost sleep over this nigga. Which is crazy because I love my sleep. So it was that serious.

If ya'll are experiencing this type of dilemma please get out of it while you still can. This person ain't worth you getting depression or worth having mental health problems.

And if this person suddenly realizes how important you are or have feelings for you all this time when you decide to move on, they can and should go fuck themselves.

They weren't all that interested in you and all of a sudden they're now emotionally available to be with you 👀.

The door is right there 👉🏽🚪.

They can leave and take their bullshit with them.

I don't care whatever decent reason they have. You finally do yourself a favour and move on to greener pastures and heal from the emotional torment you went through because of them and they decide to make things complicated for by coming back into your life because they realised that they fucked up not giving you a chance.

Nah nah nah. We ain't doing this.

And if ya'll decide to give them a chance, at least do it after you've healed yourself emotionally because shit will get messy if you rush and not give yourself time to heal.