Guys always ask:

Why is that girls always pick guys who are assholes over guy who will treat them right?

Here's why. At least in my opinion.

Girls have a romanticized version of bad boys or assholes rather. Or more like they're in love with the idea of dating an asshole or a bad boy. Kinda like the types they read in romance novels.

One thing about bad boys is that they're mysterious in a very attractive way. They make us curious and want to know more about them. Which I call bullshit. Any guy whether a nice guy or bad boy can be mysterious in a very attractive way. But that's from my own observation from reading stories about them and some experience dating a guy similar to a bad boy.

As for assholes, I guess we can say that us ladies love the challenge. We kinda like a guy who has the balls to push our buttons in a way that's frustrating but exciting. I'm also talking from experience because I have an assho guy best friend.

I don't know if y'all have noticed but bad boys and assholes are often portrayed to be misunderstood and us ladies take up that role to try to understand them. To be the light in their darkest moments. To be their guardian angel or some saviour sent from above to guide them on a better path or make their lives better. It even gets to a point where we delude ourselves to believe that we can change them or rather fix them.

So that's why us girls choose bad boys and assholes over nice guys.

Now let me take this moment and laugh at how stupid this is.

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Ladies ya'll need to wake up and understand that we are not their therapists or psychiatrists.

We have no right to be up in their business trying to fix their problems when they can do that themselves. If they need our help fixing their problems they'll ask for it. If they don't ask for our help then it's not our business. We have to understand that we can't fix all of their problems. Sometimes they don't even want us to help them. It's just how it is.

And ya'll say that y'all don't date good guys because they're just too nice? Y'all are the ones to speak because of this whole "I want to fix him" mentality going on and giving them chances they don't really deserve. Why do you think these homies be taking us for granted?

I've been in this situation where I wanted to understand and help my third ex boyfriend and that only resulted in me getting myself used and hurt in the first place. And getting myself emotionally manipulated by him. And that shit took me five years to get over.

And we complain about men being trash and that they take us for granted. As true as that is sometimes we bring it upon ourselves to get our hearts broken because we chose to be with guys who treat us like trash over guys who want to treat us like the queens we are.

As much as these homies are responsible for breaking us to the point that we can't even put ourselves back together, we're equally as responsible for getting ourselves hurt in the first place. Because we made the choice to let the bad boy in and pick the nice guy last.

So ladies remember: we are not their psychiatrists or therapists. We are not obligated to fix their problems for them especially when they don't want us to. You're only going to get your kindness exploited.