So this is me basically debunking stuff from fanfiction I thought was cool when I was 13. Mostly based off of personal experience.

A while after I got into fanfiction and all that jazz, I started to become really obsessed with certain themes that are honestly really unhealthy and pretty dumb to bring into real life. After maturing (not much lol) and actually taking a good look at what I was doing, I realized that the stuff I thought was 'super cute' and 'so romantic' was actually complete bullshit.

Stuttering and other speech impediments aren't cute. It makes you sound like a 9 year old on drugs. I have a stutter and more than often pronounce my r's and l's as w's (e.g. instead of race car, I say 'wace caw'). I used to think that it would be so cute if I had something like that cause I was a huge weeb, but no. Turns out that having breathing problems and anxiety aren't a good mix for when you want to talk like a normal person.

Having depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, etc. is not a setup for a love story. There's so much glorifying self harm and depression nowadays, and it's usually linked to 'finding your Prince Charming' or 'having a hot girl save you'. It's really not the case. Your mental health isn't your partner's problem, and linking the two is a really toxic thing to do. Not only are they not qualified for shit like depression, but it becomes such a problem that you could end up linking any kind of good feelings with undying love for them. That shit's toxic as fuuuuck. 

Like, it's one thing thing to have a bad day and go to your partner to feel better, but having a general disorder or something is a completely different thing.

We gotta stop romanticizing depression and shit, it's not good or healthy.

Lack of consent when it comes to sex is rape. It's not hot, and it's not sexy. For so long I was given the impression that consent is such a turnoff, and nobody does it. They just go up to their love interest, kiss them without asking, and then they fuck or something. Like, fuck no. That's not sexy. Imagine just minding your own business, and then having this person come up to you and kiss you without consent. That's honestly disgusting, and this is coming from me.  Even when it comes to Dub-Con kinks and BDSM, there's an agreement between the people and a safe word. You can't just do something to a person without some form of consent.

Also not only is consent a BASIC HUMAN RIGHT, but it's also like really fucking sexy. 

Neko and Inu AU's fucking suck. Yeah, the cat and wolf ears are cute. And yeah, I do love me some 'I'm in heat' prompts, but what about the

C O N S E N T

Yep, I'm not done. I think that A/B/O verses, and N/I verses can be really good, but only if there's some form of fucking consent. Not just, 'I'm in heat so fuck me. I also don't have a clear form of thought atm, but hey, you're an Alpha, so it's grand.'

Saying 'baka' and 'nya' isn't cute. I would know. I've said them before. I was a massive weeb, don't @ me.

Yaoi and yuri are shit representations of gay couples. 

No one wants to talk to you if you don't talk to them. You don't look dark and mysterious, you look like an antisocial loser who hates everyone.

And no, that's not a good thing.

Being antisocial is unhealthy and it sucks. It's not 'quirky', you just look like an ass.

There isn't always a sub/dom dynamic in relationships.

Yanderes, tsunderes and danderes are some of the worst stereotypes out there. They're so 2-Dimensional and bland, and you can instantly see through them.

Tall bottoms and short tops exist. Same goes for feminine tops and masculine bottoms. 

Being clumsy sucks. I have dyspraxia, Mekong my coordinational and sensory skills are awful. It's not fun or cute. I run into people, trip over myself, and drop my school books all the time, and it's just so embarrassing. I actually have permanent scars on my kneecaps from falling on the tarmac so often. I'm just gonna say this now, once the adrenaline runs out, bloody kneecaps really fucking hurt. My school shoes have blood stains on them because it's so messy. You don't look like a 'kawaii anime girl >w<', you just look like an idiot.

And last but certainly not least,

Self inserts suck. Fight me.