There will be haters. There will be fault- finders. There will be those who are beside you for nothing but to discourage you. Only to make you down yourself in despair. Ones to laugh behind your back. To make fun of you.
Nobody's going to come up to you, pat your back and tell you how well you're doing and praise you.
Sorry to break this to you dear, but you'll have to do that part of yourself.

Self love:  Often defined as selfishness, vanity or a moral flaw. But there's more to it. Loving yourself doesn't mean you become inconsiderate of others. It means to accept yourself as who are. Not the picture you're trying to present to the world but your own natural self.

But loving yourself is easier said than done. We all have our rough days. When we just want hide under the covers and cry like the world's fate depended on it. Your heart keeps getting heavier and heavier. There is no sign of hope at all. No silver lining in your dark, heavy cloud. We cry ourselves to sleep and put makeup the next day to hide the weary signs. We lie when somebody asks us and pass a fake smile to wipe away their doubt. In short, each of us has there own coping strategies. But the truth is: We all feel down sometimes. We all want to be loved.

But before that, you need to love yourself. You need to learn how to welcome your flaws, live with your weaknesses, accept your defects, your tears, your heart-breaks, each and every crack in your soul and all the errors in your psyche. Accept that it's totally fine if you failed a test, lost a match or don't look as pretty as the model on the magazine cover. You need to tell yourself that it's okay to be not okay.

You need to tell yourself it's totally fine to be overweight. That it's okay to have a pimpled face and that your beauty lies in it. That your skin tone or your frizzy hair makes you stand out from others. Tell yourself that no matter how flawed you are, you're still brightest star in the sky. You're beautiful, no matter what they say. No amount of words can bring you down.

The first and foremost step of self loving is self-forgiving. The only downside of taking responsibility of our actions is that we tend to get too harsh on ourselves. We punish ourselves, not physically but emotionally. We keep moaning and groaning over the same scars. Come on, your life has to mean much more than that.

 If you've committed a mistake, forgive yourself. Had a heart break, move on. Done something shameful, learn to forget. Had an unforgettable incident, shake it off.

Don't spend every second of your life sacrificing your happiness and comfort for others who aren't even grateful for it. Stop favoring others more than it's required. Sometimes, it's better to think about yourself. Gift yourself something that you want. Spend your time, money and most importantly your love on yourself.

Once again, I'm not asking to show your conceited side, no, rather a more self- favoring one. Nobody is even gonna remember your over kind attitude the next day, but the regret residing in your heart, that how you could have done or been something much better but couldn't because of your god damned goodness, might last for a lifetime.

                        You carry so much love in your heart. Give some of that to yourself.