As we go about our lives we get reminded of the ones we loved, like a childhood crush. We can still make it a focus in our lives. The third dimension of love Involves layers. Building your friendship, marriage, relationship up from the ground, via construction.

The first layer is the foundation
Much like the concrete foundation. This is only achieved while working on yourself.

As you may not think of it much, but change is a part of building a relationship together. Change will be achieved when you take a look at yourself. The self reflection is key for change, only when you can work on yourself can you start to work on your partnership. Because that's what a balanced emotional response is.

You may think you are the best you can be, but there's always room for change, improvement is the key to understanding each other. And communication is important, without the oil that lubricates your connection with each other, you will end up arguing, and fighting more.

To avoid fighting, come down to earth a bit, not let your tone of voice set the pitch for the partnership. Let communication guide you. And don't be afraid to show your true emotions. If you don't let yourself feelt it. York partner wont know if your in pain, or your suffering. Bring your true face to the table.

We have 3 faces, one we show ourselves, another that we show our fiends and family. And the last one we show the world. Each can hide your true felling.

Don't forget to let yourself feel, angry, happy ,sad, anxious. Hate, want , jealous, Love and pain. Hiding these things from your partnership can be toxic. If you see pain address it with a each other In a place you both feel safe.

Now we move to the underside of the third dimension of love, when we find ourselves without food, water and or proper exercise. We must boost the confidence of your respective partners.

By letting each other look good, and feel good without jealous thought's. The respect is not given its earned.

There is one last point I'd like to run over, and that's the continuation of balance in a friendship/relationship.

You may need to feel like both of you are getting something out of it. So people need to get a symbiotic interaction where you equally benefit from it.

Like the trees not only breath C02, the exhaust we breath out. They breath out what we breath in oxygen
02, we all live in a world that require connection and to say you don't feel it
Is to be oblivious to the little connections you feel each day.

For example you may get a random person help you pay for your shopping. Or buy you a bus ticket
These people are out there and they become the best kind of people. They don't do it for the recognition thus would rather be invisible then get attention for something that should in all intensive purposes selfless without recognising you did that good deed.

When we talk about dimensions, I am just using the word as a analogy for pockets of the self, and the selfless, selfish and egoism.

We have to take into account that everyone in the world is at different stages in there lives, and that can determine how they react to different situations.

Take your time, be patient you never know who's just around the bend
Or who may cross over into your life. So give it a chance.

Now onto the last part of this chapter of TBOL,

There's a door that blocked everyone from doing what they think feels right that same door, stops you from meeting your partner. Is one is slow to embrace new ideas, one cannot embrace love.