I have a feeling things are going down between my mom and step-dad.

Not too long ago I was going through pictures on my mom's phone because I was bored and I came across screenshots of a conversation my step-dad was having with someone. (I believe they were a female) And basically he was saying how he was upset that my mom had scared him while he was holding my baby sister or whatever.

After that I don't think too much about it but 2 days ago, my mom asked me to look after my sister if she woke up because she and my stepdad were doing counseling or something and here's a picture of the exact text she sent me:

And I had no problem with looking after my sister because I adore her and she is the only one in this house who hasn't pissed me off. At first I wasn't that curious because before they had gotten married they did something like this but then I remembered all the things that went happened recently so now I'm like "okay something's up."

So, not too long ago like 3 or 4 days ago my mom asks me if I want Canes for lunch, I say yes because I love their food so when she gets here she texts me saying come down(we live in an apartment complex) and get it and I'm slightly surprised because usually she comes upstairs. But then I assume that she's doing it so my stepdad doesn't see because he's always asking for portions of her food. So I take it upstairs and he sees that I have Canes and he's like "Where'd you get that?" And I tell him I got it from my mom and he asks where she is and I don't really want to tell him because I know my mom is in the car for a reason but I tell him anyways and he starts to go downstairs.

Slightly annoyed by this because again she's there for a reason and probably wants to be left alone. But anyways I eat my Canes and I notice their still not back yet so I look out my window(I have a semi-direct view of the car) and I see them talking in the car and whatever. I'm not sure if they were arguing or not but I hope they weren't because my little sister was in the car as well and I don't want her exposed to that at a such a young age.

Also, my mom has been spending more and more time like by herself and like isolated lately like just earlier my mom was sitting outside and it was like 12:30 a.m. and we don't necessarily live in the safest area so I have a feeling it was something serious and she needed to cool down.

But I totally understand where my mom is coming from. My stepdad can be a pain sometimes. 1. He hardly cleans up after himself.

They're often random orange peels or food wrappers lying around and I even once found one in the bath tub. The fucking bathtub. Then he's always just throwing his dirty dishes in the sink and at my house it's expected to rinse off your dishes and put them in the dishwasher. Not to mention he's always leaving straight up plates and bowls of left over food he hasn't eaten in the fridge and it's honestly disgusting. He should just fix himself small portions and getting more if needed because he does even eat the food half the time it goes in the trash.

2. He doesn't help out much with the baby. A while back ago, my mom, my sister, and I were outside and my mom wanted the baby to go on a walk but she didn't want. Now before people say "if she wants the baby to go on a walk then she should take her on a walk," my mom is practically the only person who takes her on walks and in general outside. She's always taking her on walks. So this one time she calls my stepdad and asks him to take her on a walk and he's like "I don't feel like it," "I'm tired." This was back when my mom was working(she's a teacher). My stepdad was at home most of the day. And my mom is trying to convince him but he's still like no and stuff. So I volunteer to walk my sister down the short street and come back because I love my sister and I don't want her to become like me a.k.a the person who's always inside. And when we get back he's laying in the bed on his phone. Not even about to go to sleep.

3. He doesn't help out with chores or cooking at all. It's basically just me and my mom cleaning the house (and I absolutely hate the women belong cleaning and housekeeping stereotype) My mom is always cleaning sometimes even messes HE made. And he never cooks or even helps with dinner. He always stays in bed and then comes out to eat and doesn't even stay long enough to eat dinner with my mom. He always leaves the dinner table before my mom can sit down and eat so most of the time it's just me and my mom at the dinner table because I don't want to leave my mother alone all by herself.

And I know that a lot of times my rants are about my mom and she really annoys me sometimes but that still doesn't mean that I don't appreciate her. She goes to work 5 times a day, leaving at 6 and coming back at 3:15 ish every week. Every day coming home to clean up, take care of me and my sister(mostly my sister because I'm capable of looking after and entertaining myself), cook dinner, do whatever homework she has to do(because she was doing college as well) and then getting ready for the next day. She works with children(aka one of the most tiring and obnoxious creatures) and then comes back to deal with hers. She hardly has any time for herself. And I know that my mother dislikes it because she's talked to me about before.

My stepdad typically leaves at 9 a.m. at the earliest, and comes back home at 12 and then spends most of the day in the bed. He says he's tired well don't you think that my mom was tired!? Each and everyday she came back from work and still made time to take my sister on a walk?

He needs to step up and take fucking responsibility of being a father. My parents were separated, and young when I was a baby! My dad still made plenty of time for me and he was just starting being a police officer with a job at that time and he would still take care of me. I will not have my sister grow up with a father who is barely involved in her life.

Thank you for listening and if you made it this far you are legendary <3
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