Warning: strictly for adults. If you're under 18 then this chapter is not for you.

TW: mentions of s*xual assa!t and violence.

I first watched porn accidentally when I was 14. It was some movie on YouTube, back when the algorithm wasn't so strong and a lot of adult movies would be accessible on them. That's how I ended up getting my first orgasm. To tell you the truth I didn't even know what the white discharge in my underwear was. I thought it was ovulatory discharge of cervical mucus (which happens in large amounts in growing girls). It was only when I got a little older did I realise what that actually was.

Now I tried to relive that feeling again many years later and I realised it wasn't turning me on at all. In fact I was getting disgusted by it. It didn't feel like a loving act of sex at all. In fact it was just long videos of men putting their dicks in every orifice present on the woman (and there's a lot of deep throating, gagging and retching). It felt exploitative and violent.

Later on I watched an awareness documentary on how porn is an industry that functions on the exploitation of women. In fact, to shoot violent/extreme/rape scenes, women and even teenage girls are trafficked, drugged and raped on camera. And this is precisely what chronic porn addicts crave. Soft porn or normal sex scenes are so habituated to their brains that it doesn't turn them on anymore. Just like any alcohol or drug addiction, they now crave a stronger dose i.e extreme porn.

This discovery angered me so much, not only because women are mistreated in this industry but also because of the way this infects young male minds. They think that this is what women crave in sex, to be gagged, choked and treated even worse than an inanimate object. Porn makes men think that women are always down to have sex, just the way they show in those videos (women fucking the plumber, the pizza delivery guy and even their own blood relatives and what not), which causes men to develop fragile egos and they think something is wrong with them if their partner didn't consent to sex.

And from a woman's POV, do they want to be treated like an animal at a butcher's shop during sex? Absolutely not.

Instead, admire her body. Take your time, kiss her, explore her like it's the first time you've been in bed together. Let her explore you. Let that sex be a way of conveying how much you love each other and how you would like this moment to last forever. Sex can be crazy and dirty, but make it an expression of love and admiration.