You are fat, you are black, you have horrible hair, Oh my god is that a pimple, how can you be so tall how will you find a guy, what the fuck are you wearing?, you have small boobs, you have a fat ass in short you are ugly and unlovable but if you were a boy you are always lovable no matter how you look. Most of you might have seen the post on social media about your mom feeding you too much food out of love, but if you ask any average Indian girl who is even a bit chubby you will get to know that their mothers might have put them on diet or at least put forward a negative comment about them being fat. Well my mom has done that many times and that’s kind of a reason why I was always insecure about my looks all my life. I thought if I don’t look good enough no one will love me. For the guys being fat may be just a health hazard but for a girl being fat is like a no entry sign for love. We girls have been thought from childhood that if we don’t look attractive we will never find a guy. Just take our film industry for instance I am a south Indian so I have grown up watching movies starring a girl with white skin, zero figure around her 20’s romancing with extremely old unattractive men, if the hero grows old and unattractive it’s ok but if the heroin grows old we just kick her out of the industry. Well now however this pattern is slowly changing.
Ok even though I am writing this article I am a person who is heavily insecure about my looks. Even now if I get a pimple it freaks the hell out of me, my confidence loose altogether and that’s kind of scary. When I was young I used to wish to get attention from all the guys around me and when I was in my teens I slowly started working on my looks and slowly I kind of started getting attention from the guys and it made me happy. But at the same time when it grabbed unwanted attention, I started wishing to look bad again.
I was in school I header some guys telling I have small boobs and that’s why I am not a dating material. I was shocked to know that there are some guys out there who only care a girl’s physique and nothing else. Throughout these years I have been proposed by many guys well most of them were scary cats who didn’t had the guts to propose face to face and chose social media instead and as I don’t consider online proposals actual proposals most of them were rejected but most of the proposals I got goes like this:
#1 “I was going on my bike and I saw you, standing by the roadside and I just hunted out your number and messaged you”
#2 “When I saw you for the first time I felt this instant spark between us”
#3 “On the first day of collage when I saw you I just knew you were the one and since that day I have been dying to tell you how much I love you”
Except for these there are guys who proposed me just after seeing my pictures, Once I got proposed by a guy who was in love with me for 1 year without even having a proper communication with me even once. I mean what the fuck yar I am a human being with thoughts, emotions likes and dislikes and all you care about is the way I look.
I have decided that I if I am dating a guy it will be only a person who I believe will understand me and love me for who I am, who can understand my feelings and insecurities and still love me and don’t give a fuck about my looks and love me the same way even after I put on weight, have high tan and pimples and the same concept works the other way around if I love a guy it will be solely because of his character and not based on his physique. And sadly I have never been loved by a guy for my character all the guys who wanted or not wanted to be with me were because of my looks.
So yes I have a big ass, small boos, tanned skin, frizzy hair, I am a bit fat, I get pimples sometimes but I am not ugly, no girl, no human being  actually nothing in the world is ugly everything is beautiful if you just has the heart to see it. I love the way I look and no one have the right to change it.
So girls stop waxing every part of your body, stop this stupid dieting, stop putting on makeup, stop trying to make your skin fairer to impress others with your looks and do all those stuff if you wanna make yourself happy and just be yourself  and be with the people who loves you for who you are.