Atleast once in our lifetime, we fall in love. Young or old, rich or poor, near or far, love chooses any boundaries. For most of the time, no matter how we set qualifications, we almost always end up falling for the person we least expect to. You don't choose love, for love chooses you. The time, place, and person... they'll be things we have no control over. How love begins is a mystery. It may begin with a smile, a word, a glance and along the way, these things turn into friendship, then unconsciously, love. 

A love that springs from friendship becomes the most wonderful love. Two people who know each other more than anyone else, two people who have shared memories even before they fall in love, two people who have been tested by life, go together in a special way no other people do. Falling in love with a friend is both painful and overwhelming. Overwhelming because of the many friends you have, you had to fall in love with that person. A person, a friend you least expected to. A love for a friend is most of all, painful. Sometimes, we have to ask "Why that person?". At some point, we know that that person is a friend, nothing more and nothing less. Sometimes we have to accept the fact that love destroys friendship. They rarely coexist together.

Love or friendship, it's one or the other. When you choose to confess to a friend and he/she feels the same way, you become lovers, but if he/she doesn't, you go back the way you were before but it will never be the same again. A drift has formed, a kind of awkwardness that never existed, not until you confessed. It is said "what's scary is never having the chance to say it out. You miss him, you love him, you want to be more than friends, but you know that going beyond the boundaries of what you have may destroy something you've tried to build up all those years". But it is also true that them knowing it might take things on a different path and it will make you hate yourself. It might ruin your friendship, it might destroy everything you guys ever had, it might also sabotage your relationship with the mutual friends and family because every conversation is a reminder of how much of a backstabber you've been when you loved someone you shouldn't have. Nevertheless, it will always be a mystery how we fall in love in an instant. How a certain friend will just, in one moment, ignite a spark in our eyes in the most unexpected time and place. But remember, not everyone gets a chance to confess their love, so suck it up and move on instead of ruining the single most beautiful relationship of your life.

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Stage 2: Fell in love with a Friend and holy shit this is what I  wrote to get over him....

Love, Nandu