1. What am I getting from the relationship? Is this person there for me when I need them most?

Do they build me up, and bring out the best in me?

2. Is this friendship draining,

or is it mainly negative? Do I feel I'm just being used?

3. Can I be genuine and real – and just myself - with this person?

Or are they likely to react if I share my honest thoughts?

4. Do they care about my feelings, my views and my opinions?

Or do they treat me like an object, whose feelings never count?

5. Am I putting up with things because it's started to feel normal?

Am I scared that no-one else would really want to be my friend?