While scrolling IG, I sometimes come across posts that have the straightforward title of
'When XX falls out of love'

This somehow always ends up making me question,  'how does one even fall out of love?'

Don't get me wrong, I'm all in support of the idea of finding the life partner after much searching.

But dare I ask, people who claim to have fallen out of love for their partner, were they ever in love with them at the first place?

People get over crushes, people get over flings. But if a person was ever truly in love, how do they ever fall out of it?

Personally, I think if someone ever tells that they fell out of love for me, I'd just assume they never were in love with me.

Why? Cause I believe love happens in 5 stages.

You fancy them.

You crush on them.

You like them.

You love them.

You commit to them.

Attraction, Dating, Disappointment, Stability, Commitment.

It's possible to fall out of attraction. It's possible to grow out of a crush. It's possible to grow out of liking for someone.

That is possible.

But once you feel like you've entered the phase where you fall in love, it means that you've been disappointed by them at least once.

And if you still feel like you wanna be with that person, you my friend, have entered the 4th stage of love.

Where you accept them with their flaws and despite all of the times they've disappointed you.

I don't know why I'm writing this, but now that it's typed out, I feel lighter.

I don't know if I'm being shallow about this. Or if I'm being disrespectful to the ones who think they were in love before suddenly falling out of it.

I personally still don't think falling out of love is impossible for me.
I never stopped loving someone.
I was disappointed in them. I was mad at them.
And maybe I still am.
But I never ever stopped loving them.

I just couldn't.
Am I the only one?