Do you ever have that moment when you're being surrounded by people that make you really happy and then suddenly, the emptiness strikes you. Out of all sudden, you feel hollow in your chest. Like, your life feel empty and there's nothing great that you have achieved in your life and you feel useless?

Like you does not deserve to live because you make no changes at all? Like you are not significant?

You might read this as overreacted but trust me on this because I have experienced it and I bet will still have it in the future. In fact, I am going through it right now. It has been a few weeks and the feeling still doesn't leave me. Why?

Why are we especially as INFJs are having this feeling?

Because we're so damn perfectionist and put a really high expectation on ourselves. 

We have this setting that we have and need to have a sense of purpose because if not, our existences in this world are just shadows. We want to achieve something big and meaningful in our lives and we won't take anything less. This thought often drives me to crazy and make me feel down and disappointed in myself. I'm still learning to cope and handle it well. 

The fact that INFJs are the kind that 'all or nothing' people does not help too. 

Because most of the time, I want to achieve something big and often miss the small things that are also significant and despite they are small, they are also meaningful for me if only I let them be. Looking at everyone else, I often feel like they are doing great things in their lives and when I look at mine, I feel disappointed. I become too uptight with myself and critize her. I keep on comparing when actually I can't because we are different people. 

Every single one of us have different things stored for them in the future. 

It is hard but I am trying to remind myself every time the feeling comes that I am trying and giving my best step by step slowly towards my dream. The time does not matter (okay, maybe a little bit) but the destination is what matters the most.

You do not have to achieve something great. Just do something meaningful for you is enough and sometimes it is not about you but the person that you help. If it is meaningful and helpful for others then that's totally fine and great! 

It may be only one person but remember, if we change one person's life, it is like we change his whole world. That is what matters. 

Be gentle to yourself because I totally know the constant struggle to do something great and meaningful as to fulfill our seek for purpose but do remember, our lives themselves are meaningful and significant towards others around us.

Take care of yourself with care and love.

Your fellow INFJ, 

naiorim xoxox