Warning ⚠️. Hey all, I don't usually say my author's note at the top of the chapter, but what you're about to read is mature content that is not intended for anyone who is under 18 (but if you're under that age I can't stop you.) As you may know, I've already written mature content, but nothing like this of what you're about to read and I really did a lot of research on this to know what everything meant. It's Chris's checklist and it has his BDSM likes and dislikes, but it's graphic content and uses a lot of sexual language. You have been warned.

Experience and Willingness

Read the list carefully.

For each of the kinks, you should provide three answers: First, your experience, if you have any. Feel free to elaborate on it in the comments. Second, how much of a turn-on is this for you? Third, how scary is this? Exciting scary, or really scary?

Use the list also to discuss your hard and soft limits. (Note hard limit is an activity or sexual act that is off-limits. A soft limit is an activity that is more flexible than a hard limit. It might be an act that a person hesitates to perform or is scared to engage in, but may be willing to try.)

The level of Acceptance ranges from No. through 0-5 and what they mean.

NO. I WILL NOT DO this under ANY circumstances!

0. No desire, don't like. Will agree if asked by my master/mistress or partner.

1. Intriguing, but scary, or embarrassing.

2. Willing to do it but doesn't excite me.

3. Would LIKE to do it once in a while.

4. LOVE doing it, and would like it on a regular basis.

5. WILD TURN-ON, would like it as often as possible.

EXPERIENCE? Turn on? How scary is this? COMMENT/ELABORATION

1. Age play: Hard limit. NO. I have not experienced age play and I wouldn't want to. Roleplaying different ages like my sub/dom is a child or where my mistress is my mommy and I'm the little boy is not my thing. Although, I have to admit I do like it when my sub/dom calls me daddy, besides that not my cup of tea. Really scary.

2. All-nighter: Soft limit- 4. I have experience with it before, and I have enjoyed an all-nighter with my partner. It's tiring but worth it. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

3. Anal sex: Hard limit- 0. I personally don't want this. I have experienced it with my dom in hers before and it was okay, I didn't really like it. Also, it's not a big deal if I don't do it. Not really a turn-on, but will agree if my dom/sub wants it, but not really my thing. Really scary.

4. Anal plugs (small/large): Hard limit- 1. No experience with my dom and won't ever try it in mine, however, I will do it if my mistress or partner wants a plug in their bum. It can be a turn-on if it's only in hers. A bit scary.

5. Anal plug (in public, under clothes): Hard limit- 1.  I actually don't want this, but my dom/sub can if they're willing to do it in their ass. I have experience with my dom's bum. Somewhat of a turn-on only if it's for my sub/dom's behind. Somewhat scary.

6. Ass licking (giving/receiving): Extreme Hard limit- No. I will not want to lick my dom/sub's ass. Not a turn-on. Really scary.

7. Being dominant or a submissive (note a submissive is not a sex slave): Soft limit- 5. I have experienced being a top and a bottom and I really enjoyed both. I am a switch, I want to make that clear. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

8. Being tickled: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced it before and I enjoyed being touched and also tickling my partner. It turns me on. Exciting scary.

9. Blindfold: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced it and really enjoyed being blindfolded as well as blindfolding my partner. A huge turn-on. Exciting scary.

10. Bondage: Soft limit- 4. I have experienced being tied up with my partner as well as myself and enjoyed both ways. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

11. Clothespins: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced putting clothespins on my partner's breasts and body. To some degree of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

12. Cock & balls worshiping (oral): Soft limit- 5. I have experience with my last dom and I quite enjoyed it, makes me feel appreciated. Massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

13. Crawling: Soft limit- 2. I have experienced crawling down to my dom, but never a sub or my dom crawling for me, I would like to try my sub crawling to me someday. Somewhat of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

14. Cuckolding (receiving/giving): Hard limit- NO. I haven't experienced but I know I never want to try this. I wouldn't want to share my partner or watch them with another person. Not a turn-on. Really scary.

15. Handcuffs: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced being handcuffed as well as handcuffing my sub, it was extremely enjoyable. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

16. Double penetration (anal and/or vaginal): Soft limit- 3. I have experienced using a dildo and my own. It's a slight turn-on. Exciting scary.

17. Dildos: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced using toys with my last dom and enjoyed using them on her. A big turn-on. Exciting scary.

18. Edging:  Soft limit- 3. I have experienced coming to a peak of my climax and then denying it as well as doing it to my sub/dom, it was thrilling. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

19. Electric Play:  Soft limit- 3. I have experienced only doing it to my sub/dom, never tried it on me, but maybe someday. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

20. Erotic dancing/striptease:  Soft limit- 3. I've never experienced my dom/sub ever stripping for me. Hopefully, one day that could happen. It could turn me on, but don't know for certain. Exciting scary.

21. Exhibitionism (being watched): Hard limit- NO. I haven't experienced having sex in front of people, nor would I want it. Nothing in public, everything stays between my partner and me. Not a turn-on. Really scary.

22. Face slapping (receiving/giving): Soft limit- 2. I have experienced both ways, but really not my thing to slap someone in the face. More or less of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

23. Facesitting/Queening: Soft limit- 3. Yes, I have experienced my dom sitting on my face and it was arousing, except when my dom smothering me and I can't breathe, not into breath play. A massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

24.  Fantasizing/ writing fantasies: Soft limit- 2. Yes, I have experienced talking about it and doing certain fantasies such as roleplaying. It's somewhat of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

25. Fisting (vaginal): Soft limit- 2. I haven't experienced it, many women I have encountered don't like fisting. But I would not mind giving my sub/dom fisting if they ask for it. Could be a turn-on. Somewhat scary.

26. Fisting (anal): Hard limit- 1. I haven't experienced it, but not a big deal if I never do it. I personally would not want anything to do with my own ass, however, would be willing to try it if my dom/sub wants to. Not really a turn-on. Somewhat scary.

27. Following orders: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced giving orders as well as following them, I quite enjoyed both ways. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

28.  Forced masturbation: Soft limit- 2. I have experienced it both ways, but it's fine if I don't do it as often. Somewhat of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

29. Forced nudity (private): Soft limit- 3. I have experienced it and I enjoyed telling my sub to get naked for me when I commanded or vice versa when I get naked for her. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

30. Genital sex: Soft limit- 4. I have experienced it with my dom/sub before and I liked having intercourse, however, not really into anal that much. A massive turn-on if I'm inside her pussy only. Exciting scary.

31. Getting spanked (hands): Soft limit- 3. I have experienced getting spanked and spanking my partner. But if I'm being honest, I prefer to spank my partner by the hand. To some extent a turn-on. Exciting scary.

32. Getting belted: Hard limit- 0. I have experienced getting belted and receiving it, however, I don't mind if I never do it. It sort of hurts and the pain I didn't like it. it Not a turn-on. Really scary.

33. Getting caned: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced it and I actually enjoyed it. Within limits of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

34. Getting whipped: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced being whipped and whipping my sub which felt good. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

35. Golden shower: Hard limit- NO. I have not experienced it. Urinating on my partner or them doing it to me is not my thing. Not a turn-on. Really scary.

36. Hair pulling: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced her pulling my hair as well as pulling hers, not going to lie it was arousing for both ends. Massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

37. Hand jobs/blow jobs (receiving/giving): Soft limit- 4. Yes, I have experienced it multiple times and enjoyed it. I want to receive either one, but under any circumstances will I be giving one, I'm not into being with another male. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

38. Ice cubes: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced putting ice cubes on my partner as well as having ice on me. It's enjoyable and arousing at the same time. Huge turn-on. Exciting scary.

39. Sexy Lingerie (wearing): Soft limit- 3. I have experienced this before and I find it sexy but if I'm being honest, I like it when my dom/sub is naked. Sort of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

40. Massage (giving/receiving): Soft limit- 3. I have experienced massaging my partner but never got the experience to be massaged by my dom/sub. I hope someday to have that experience. Big turn-on. Exciting scary.

41. Masturbation (private): Hard limit- NO. I have experienced it and I didn't like it. I only want my sub/dom to masturbate in front of me. I find it more enjoyable when watching. Not really a turn-on. Really scary.

42. Masturbation (in front of partner): Soft limit- 3. I have experienced it with my dom/sub and it was enticing. Massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

43. Modeling for erotic photos: Soft limit- 2. I haven't experienced it but I wouldn't mind taking photos of my partner if she's willing. It could be a turn-on. Exciting scary.

44. Nipple clamps: Soft limit- 4. I have experienced applying nipple clamps on my sub/dom's breasts and it was exhilarating. A major turn-on. Exciting scary.

45. Over-the-knee spanked: Soft limit- 4. I have experienced it before but only with my partner being spanked over the knee. Massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

46. Oral sex (receiving/giving): Soft limit- 4. I have experienced it and I enjoyed this a lot. Really massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

47. Orgasm denial: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced it both ways. It just takes time to get used to it, but worth it. It's a big turn-on. Exciting scary.

48. Orgasm control: Soft limit 3- I have experienced both ways, it's actually hard when you're at your peak and try to control it, but it's worth it in the end. Huge turn-on. Exciting scary.

49. Phone sex: Soft limit- 2. I have experienced it before and I enjoyed hearing my partner's voice on the phone. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

50. Public sex (in secret): Soft limit- 2. I have never experienced that before, but willing to try it. Perhaps a turn-on. Exciting scary.

51. Punishment: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced being punished as well as giving out punishment. It helps to set the rules and if my sub/dom and/or I don't follow them, it makes us know our mistakes. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

52. Pussy worshipping (oral): Soft limit- 5. I have experienced it and enjoyed pleasing my partner. It arouses me. Massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

53. Quickie: Soft limit- 2. I have experience but doesn't excite me too much, I prefer to go slow. Kind of a turn-on. Exciting scary.

54. Roleplaying: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced it and really enjoyed it, except I will not roleplay if it involves weapons such as knife play. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

55. Sensory deprivation: Soft limit- 4. I have experienced both ways and I quite enjoyed having my senses taken away such as sight and hearing. Huge turn-on. Exciting scary.

56. Servicing me upon command: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced serving my dom or vice versa where she serves me. Massive turn-on. Exciting scary.

57. Positions training: Soft limit- 4. I have experienced it and I like training my partner if needed. Major turn-on. Exciting scary

58. Slutty clothes (in public): Hard limit- NO. I haven't experienced it and I wouldn't want to. No way is my sub/dom wearing revealing clothes in public their body is for my eyes only. Not a turn-on. Really scary.

59. Wax play: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced having wax on me as well as putting wax on my partner. Major turn-on. Exciting scary.

60. Wearing a collar: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced having my partner wear a collar but I never wore one. I do like pet play. A big turn-on. Exciting scary.

61. Swallowing cum: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced and it really turns me on, only if my sub/dom swallows. I won't be swallowing my own semen or another male's. Exciting scary.

62. Squirting: Soft limit- 5. I have experienced this with my sub/dom and I thought it was arousing. A big turn-on. Exciting scary.

63. Threesomes: Hard limit- NO. I haven't experienced it and I'm not into sharing my partner with anyone. I want her all to myself. Not a turn-on. Really scary.

64. Triple penetration (mouth, ass, vaginal): Soft limit- 2. I have experienced it, really it's fine if I don't have to do it. A slight turn-on. Exciting scary.

65. Vibrators: Soft limit- 3. I have experienced using them on my sub/dom and in fact, it turned me on big time. Exciting scary.

66. Vibrators (in public, under clothes): Soft limit- 3. I haven't experienced this, however, I want to if my partner is willing to try it. Could be a turn-on. Exciting scary.

Write down all the kinks you have/want to explore that I didn't mention here: I would want to try gagging with my sub, but only if my submissive will let me or vice versa where my dom gags me.

Write down a list of all the sex toys you own: Where to begin? I'll just name a few- handcuffs, riding crops, ropes, ball gags, restraints, different types of vibrators, etc.

Write down a list of your sexiest lingerie items: I personally do not own lingerie, usually, it's my mistress or sub that wears lingerie. However, I prefer when they are naked for me.

  "This is actually the checklist of my soft and hard limits. My last sub/dom and I did this in the past. I just keep a copy of it," he utters and I take my eyes off the paper to look at him. "You can write down what you want to experience next to mine, or I can print out a fresh page for you, only if you consent to it and want this life. I can't force you, even though I did blindfold you," he says with a small smile as he sits down, turning to face me.

  I look at the paper again. "This is what you like and don't like?" I ask and I don't even understand half of what this stuff is.

  "Yes," he says simply.

  I don't know if I am glad to see what his dislikes and likes are or if I feel uneasy reading what he did with his past doms and subs. He had a lot of experience and I barely have any.

  "Who wrote this checklist?" I ask since I'm curious.

  "My last dominant," he says soothingly.

  I frown. "Wait, I thought you didn't preference yourself as a dominant or submissive?"

  "Well, I don't... I don't like to label myself but I am known as a switch..." He puts his hand through his hair. "Also, it doesn't always necessarily need to be sexual, it can be very simple things such as we can go to a restaurant and I order for you or vice versa where you order for me."

  I recall him ordering for me when we went to IHOP, was that him dominating me?

  "It's basically an exchange of power between us where it involves a little or a lot of control. A submissive will tell the dominant what they will and won't submit to and being a dominant I have to agree to those terms to make it work."

  "So, if I agree to this. Will you agree to my terms?" I ask as I keep my eyes on the paper.

  "Yes, I have to. In order for this to work, I have to respect your decisions and you need to respect mine. If you consent, it's best you start off as a submissive and then work your way to being dominant. I mean only if you want to," he pauses. "So, as your dom, I need to cater to your needs. Actually, subs are the ones in charge because we as doms have to respect and put our partner's needs first ahead of our own."

  I rip my eyes away from the paper, finding Chris staring at me. "So, I basically say what I want and you have to agree?" I ask.

  "Yes, like I said you're in charge of making the decisions and I have to follow them and serve as well as satisfy you... Once we both agree, being the dom at first, I will set the rules as well as the training regimen and you learn from that. After that I would like to "switch," meaning that I'm sometimes a top and sometimes a bottom," he states.

  "A top and a bottom?" I ask as I look at him with confusion.

  "The top is dominant, often referred to as sir, majesty, mistress, goddess, master, etc. The bottom is submissive. But I like it when I am both which means I'm a switch. Are you sort of understanding what I am talking about?" He asks as he grins a real boyish grin, and I'm even more furious with myself when my heart speeds up.

   "Yeah... May I ask you something?" I question.

  "Of course."

  "What made you become part of this lifestyle?" I look away from him, a little ashamed of that question.

  He grabs my chin and tilts it up to look at him. "Well, I..."