Most times when we compare our imperfections to someone else perfections, we don't see the mistakes they made, or how poorly they did when they were where are now.

And we don't see that they have many years of experience doing what they are doing and a team to help them succeed, which most of us who are new entrepreneurs don't have as yet.

I will admit, sometimes comparing yourself to others, when they are not at the level you are at as yet can help boost a flagging and fragile self-esteem (at least temporarily) or motivate us to improve ourselves (to work harder at the gym or invest our money more wisely, for example) when we are looking at others that are couple steps ahead of us, it can also leave us feeling as if we're just not measuring up on some level.

I'm not accomplished enough.
I'm not attractive enough.
I'm not disciplined enough.
I'm not successful enough.
I'm not smart enough.I'm not wealthy enough.
I'm not worthy enough.
I'm not _____ enough.

When you're constantly comparing yourself to others, it leaves you on a "comparison treadmill." The problem is that this treadmill has only one setting, and that is to keep ratcheting up the speed so that no matter how hard you push yourself, it's never enough.

If you are constantly looking at other people to feel good enough, if how you feel about yourself is determined by how you rate yourself against others, then you'll never feel good for very long. There will always be someone doing better than you on some measure. Always.

If you want to win the game and be successful, you have to stop comparing yourself to others.

When you live your life comparing yourself to others to feel happy or good enough, you will never win and your comparisons will hold your happiness and success hostage. Comparing yourself to others is a race you can never win.

People don't only want to see your perfection, but they also want to see your imperfection because it is in your imperfection, you are able to have the most impact. Your imperfection, is someone else perfection. Your 50% is someone else 80%.

Breaking the Habit of Comparing Yourself With Others

This now begs the question, how do we stop ourselves from comparing ourselves to others? How do we break this cycle our comparison?

Here are some tips to break the cycle of comparing ourselves to others:

Awareness. Becoming aware of your thoughts is the first step to stop comparing yourself to others. Most often we compare ourselves to others without realizing we're doing it as it comes natural to us to do so. When you become aware of what you are doing, you can then take action to stop it. Bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it'll be hard not to notice.

Stop yourself. Once you realize you're doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don't berate yourself or feel bad - just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.

Count your blessings. Instead of focusing on what someone else has that you don't have, or someone else journey to your journey, start focusing on what you have and already achieve. Focus on what you have, not what you don't have and start being grateful for your blessings. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all. The interesting thing about practicing gratitude is that it attracts more of what you want into your life. It attracts more blessings.

Focus on your strengths. Many times we focus on our weaknesses, the things we are not good at, instead of our strengths, what we are good at. Stay in your lane, you will not be good at everything. Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are and focus on these. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don't brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage. If your good at graphics designs and someone else is good at branding, focus on your strength and let the other person focus on his/her strength.

Be OK with imperfection. No one is perfect - intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don't reach perfection. It is your imperfections that makes you so perfect for your assignment because the people you were called to serve will be able to relate to your imperfections. You have to learn to be okay with your imperfections and don't hide it. Share it with your audience, be willing to become vulnerable and authentic when sharing your message and your gift. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don't think you'll ever be the "perfect person". If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.

Don't knock others down. Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. In the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success - that will lead to more success on your part.

Focus on the journey. All of us are on journey. I learn that the journey is sometimes more important than the destination or the goal. When you reach your goal, you will be able to teach others your process or help others to get to where you are now. Don't focus on how you rank in comparison to others - life is not a competition. It's a journey. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. That's all you need to worry about.

Be comfortable with what you have. What you have or possess is enough to get you to the next level. If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That's an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. There will always be someone that has something you want. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough.

Don't hold yourself back by mulling over what someone else is doing or has achieved. Gear up and go get what you've been dreaming about. This is your unique story, so do your thing, only you know how well you do it.