~I was always looking outside myself for strength and Confidence but it comes from within.it is there all the time.

Negative environments where people are harsh or even abusive to one another are toxic.No one tries to lift you or anyone else out of the pain,and no one can find emotional or even physical comfort-that will lower your self-worth and perhaps even you will to live.

This is not about having the occasional bad day or moment.it"s about living and or working in an environments that brings or puts you down.

When
someone is constantly telling your that you are not good enough,eventually.if you stay around a while,you will start to believe it.Only two creatures on the planet,if you continuallly tell them they are bed,will take it in and believe it:dogs and humans.We have all seen dogs whose spirits have been broken.They walk around with their tails between their legs and their heads down.

They get started or scared very easily,and can react with fear aggression (barking or growling when they are frightened).The poor things never seem to feel safe and secure.They have lost their wag,and it"s sad to see people tend or react in similar ways when they are living with someone who puts them down on a regular basis or they are working for a company that manages by intimidation.

There is very little joy to be found here,and one"s sense of self-confidence can be easily shattered.most people in such places are unable to find the strength they need to battle the forces that are attarcking them because they have simply run out of energy.

The trick here is to step back for enough to get some perspective,and,if the circumstance I just discribed truly exist,and counseling hasn"t worked or is refused,the best move may to be just leave.

I know that"s drastic.but saying in a negative environment or relationship because you are afraid to leave is also known as"battered person"s syndrome, "such as when abused women continue to go back to the home of their abusers.They do it because the devil they know is better than the one they don"t(as they mistakenly think).AAAAAAAAAAAA

they are returning to what
is familiar.

|confidence cannot exist within an aura of meanness.To find yourself and rebuild what has been taken from you,leaving a bad environment may be the answer.This requires a type of inner strength that some find in desperate moments-the strength that some find in desperate moments-the strength that helps you believe in yourself and to know that do not deserve to be treated badly,no matter what another person says.

You have finallly had enough,and you reach down to the depths of your soul and pull up whatever shreds of self-respect you can find.

The feeling may only last for a few hours,but use that time to pack or write your resignation,because you will never be able to flourish where negativity and horrific behavior are allowed to run rampart.

Once most people get our of a negative environments or relationship,one of the first things they do is castigate themselves by saying," why did it take me so long?"
But that thought is totallly self-defeating.

It took as long as it took;do
not waste any more time feeling
beat up.
At this point you may actuallly
be used to it and not even see that are
doing it to yourself.
As soon as you are aware
You've changed the
behavior,all you have to do next is whatever is in front of you.

Leave the past,and the old
behavior,behind.
Accept that you had the strength to change your life.

It"s okay to feel
good
about
yourself|.

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