Okay. Here’s the rest: Male Best Friend Q&A (Part 2)

        14. Did you get to spend the night with him?

 Not really. The only times I did was when I was pretty young and had nowhere else to go, but needed a place to stay. I stayed three nights at his house. But I think our parents realized we weren’t a brother/sister type thing, so they did their best not to promote that.

However, after he moved back in with his dad after he almost died, I would jog to his house at one or two in the morning, pop the lock on the back door, sneak up to his room, and wake him up if he was already asleep. Then, he’d let me crawl into bed with him and we’d talk about whatever was bothering me until we fell asleep.

Then, I’d wake up early enough to jog back before I had to be up and ready for school. I still don’t think my dad knows I did that.

        15. Were you ever embarrassed trying to explain girl things to him?

I’m easy to embarrass, so yeah. Very much.

But, if you’re trying to ask, did we ever have the “Tampon. Please explain.” conversation (I asked, this was what she was talking about). Yes.

He’s like the most curious person in the world (for a week straight he sent me these really inspiration sayings, but it turned out he was literally reading tampon wrappers because he was just curious). And it was not fun. However, God bless the companies for putting those little instruction things in every box. That saved me a huge headache and taught him not to ask questions.

He liked the bra sizing struggles conversation much better. 

        16. Are you two opposites or the same?

We have the exact same interests, hobbies, personalities, but we handle ourselves completely differently. It keeps things interesting.

For example, we’re both really competitive people, so I try to stay away from competition when I can (because I know I get too invested) and he just goes for it. And neither of us like physical contact, so we never initiate it with other people (seriously, if you want to hug me I don’t mind, but I won’t instigate it), but he’s much more comfortable with extended contact where I do my best to get away.

        17. Did you tell him about your first time?

My first time what?

First time I wrote a book? First time I read 1984? First time I took a terrific little spill on a skateboard (10 points if you know what “terrific little spill” references)? First time I found an eyeliner I really loved? First time I got in a fight? First time I fell out of a tree (he thought I died, it was great)? First time I fell out of a moving vehicle? First time I took my dog to the lake? First time I watched That ‘70s Show (I swear to you, Eric Forman is the male version of me. I promise you. We are the same person AND we do everything the exact same way. Exactly the same. I swear it.)?

You kids trying to ask your dirty questions. I know what you’re doing, but I think I won this round.

        18. Biggest fight? (Loved getting to meet you guys!)

Kayla! Loved meeting you too! You’re super sweet and so, so pretty, don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise! Seriously, you’re amazing.

We never had huge fights or anything, just a lot of little arguments. I guess the worst was when he got his job offer and wasn’t going to take it, because he didn’t want to just leave me and move ten hours away when I was incredibly sick.

I think he only left, because he was so mad at me. I kept playing the if you give this up I’m going to hate myself for ruining your life card and that annoyed him to no end. But it worked out because he absolutely loves his job and I’m still alive…so…I win!

        19. When did you meet? And how!? (You two are cute)

Aww, thanks, Lauren. You’re pretty cute yourself

Anyway, I was a day old, so I don’t remember. But our moms were friends, so I’m sure it had something to do with that. Honestly, I can’t remember not knowing him.

        20. What’s your favorite thing about him?

Maybe just how he’s so laid back and easy going. Or how he’s always really genuine. And funny. And smart. And everything. I don’t know. I’ll stop now.

No wait, I know it. I like how he makes a point to know a little bit about everything just for the sake of making people comfortable. Like, he can go to a party with hundreds of people and be able to hold at least a five minute conversation with each of them about one of their interests. You name it, he knows enough to bullshit.

Except pop culture stuff. He is a little behind on pop culture (worse than me, if you can believe it). I love him. He’s like a Martian (that wouldn’t get that reference). Bless his heart, trying to figure out what people are saying when they talk about reality TV.  

        21. Best advice he ever gave you?

The best advice he ever gave me was the first time I relapsed. He came to see me in the hospital and I was in really bad shape and I knew he was going to be so disappointed in me and angry at me just like everyone else.

But he said he was going to tell me something everyone else didn’t want me to know: it’s okay to relapse. It happens to the best of us and tomorrow, you’re going to have start all over and it’s going to suck. It’s going to suck more than anything you’ll ever have to do, but there’s never going to be a good enough reason not to try. You get a second change to be someone different and you better not waste it, because most people aren’t that lucky.

That stuck with me.

        22. Do you have nicknames for each other?

Weird story. Everyone thinks he calls me baby like the whole “honey, baby, sweetie” pet name thing, but it’s actually because when we were younger, people used to tell him to be nice to me because I was the baby. He’s literally called me that since I was seven. So there’s that.

And he calls me girl and everyone thinks it’s because of the “hey, girl” memes (that’s what they’re called, right? Memes?), but he’s been calling me that for almost twenty years because when we were little everyone made a big deal about how we were best friend’s and I’m a girl. So he calls me girl.

And I call him dude and bro. Because I can. It’s what I call everyone.

        23. Anything he doesn’t know about you?

Nope.

That’s all! Feel free to answer these for yourself. Or your best friend. Or tell me how awful I am. Or whatever. I don’t care. Have fun with it!

Or, ask me any questions you have. Obviously I’m just full of answers.

Again, if you have something you’ve written you want to share, leave the link (preferably on that chapter, so I know what you’re getting at). I’ll try to check it out.