to permit and to inform – almost interchangeable, but in truth, they were never the same. asking for permission, one is allowing the other party’s decision to be heard. mostly, authority plays a big role in this practice; other cases, rare ones, opens a space for discussion between agreement or disagreement. all these were the opposite of practicing information. by informing someone, one was merely making the other party be aware of the topic. in most cases, automatic agreement is expected. though there are some scenarios under this practice that offer a space for discourse, the informant usually won and the other party tends to compromise.

what i can saw in these practice was the value of one’s voice – was it being heard? or was it being disregarded? People should be much aware of this inconsideration. the fact that most of us does not see the difference between giving value of the other side of the coin – just for the reason that it has already been decided by ourselves – was already a frightening scenario. with our natural habit of giving in with the unhealthy practice of informing, or even the one to be informed with, would make us unconsciously create a mind set to compromise. if this occur furtherly, worst case scenario might happen as it would totally change our perspectives about the essence of having a healthy discourse for the permission of both parties.

now then, think. whenever you are asking in someone's advantage, are you really asking for permission or are you merely informing and expecting for an immediate agreement? please. be very mindful not only about your choice of words but also for the execution afterwards. i hope you are well aware that this unintended ignorance has a domino effect about each of our perspectives. therefore, as the considerate people in our respected spaces, we, the informed ones, should take the initial step into stopping this stigma.

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