HAPPY DIWALI!

I said earlier that I will write about love but I was trying to avoid it.

LOVE! That word gives me headache.

I am not joking. I am having headache now even.

But I will do it for you guys.

Where should I start?

What is special in it? It is just a psycho feeling. It makes you cry like no one has made you cry.

It makes you smile like no one has made you smile.

If a person has mood swings like this people will leave him saying he is annoying but no one does that to love.

People should think love is annoying and leave it. Actually, people are still running behind. They spend their teenage life expecting to meet love.

Love is just a feeling. Love is just a part of life. Life is not love.

People have lived without love. Love is not like. People are seeing you with pity if you don't have a love.

I have never been in love but I have watched and analysed enough to talk about it.

People ask me if I am in love or not. I am not in love.

I will fall in love when I meet my girl.

A girl who doesn't take my love as granted.

A girl who makes me feel safe and comfortable.

A girl who is worth taking my shattered heart and giving it to her to break it again.

A girl who makes me smile. A girl who knows what to do when I am broken.

A girl to whom I can show all my love and make everyone in the world jealous of us.

A girl who doesn't think I am weak as I don't have ego.

I don't know if it is too much asking this. Even after saying all this, I am not expecting this when I meet her.

I want to make her like this with my love.

I believe that I have enough love in me to make this.

This chapter is about the two important stages where love life collapses normally.

It is just a generalised view. It is not a common thing. It happens normally.

If you are not like this, I am happy.

1) FIGHTS

"She doesn't understand me at all. I don't think we are made for each other." This is something you will hear from many people.

How do you expect her to understand you completely? Even with single heart and brain, you get two thoughts on every issue. If this is the case then think what happens if another heart and brain come into the scenario?

You are meant to have fights. The fights makes you come close. You might be asking me now, how it is possible?

If you fight today the next when you meet, the awkward hug you give them will always be remembered. You slowly wrap your arms around her as you are scared of rejection.

The last night she would have thought if you would hug her or not. When you hug her, it will make her happier.

The small glares you get will seem cute to you. Your expression for hugging will make her think you are cute.

Bond between you is tighten by these fights. Ego is not allowed in love. Throw it as soon as you fall in love.

Don't hesitate to get on your knees. You might hear, "It's okay. It's you only." From her.

Doesn't it sound like you are special?

You could have made her cry. It's okay. Just make sure you are there to wipe the tear.

I have said that I don't like love triangles. In those stories, when two fight, a new guy comes at that time only. He disturbs everything.

I feel angry on seeing them. It's very rude to do that. Give them some time.

Fight but don't let it spoil your opinion about her.

There are some things which you should never say or do to a girl. Don't ever do those.

Pay attention to words you use on her. Some actions are not to be done ever to your girl.

Some mistakes are never meant to be forgotten.

Love is not about fancy dates, kisses, hugs or cuddles.

Many say love is just some hormones. Actually hormones do something but love is not hormonal.

Have you ever heard a science term, "Every mineral are ores but every ores are not minerals"?

Just like that, "Every love has some hormonal duties but everyone hormonal duties are not related to love."

You might feel happy when you hug, kiss, cuddle or snuggle with someone that doesn't mean you are in love.

I have heard some boys say, "When she touches my hand, I feel something man. When I hug her, I feel good. I think I am in love. I want to do many things with her."

My reply to them is, "Idiot! You will feel that. It's your metabolism. You should feel that. Its normal. You can't love for that. Will you smile when you see her? Will you cry when she is broken?"

Love is nothing but commitment. Love is being committed to a person.

If you are not committed then please don't say you are in love.

Fights are normal but don't extend it for days.

2) PARENTS

Every love story in India ends in the mercy of parents. Parents decide whether the love should continue or not.

Even if you want to stay unmarried, you need parent's permission here.

India might not have high divorce rates in the world but India surely has high break up rates (After saying I love you).

The word love doesn't have the significance which it has on other parts of the world.

People say they are in love. When I ask them, "Which year will you marry?" They say, "No chance. My parents won't agree."

I think, then why on earth did you say you are in love?

I personally think love should end in marriage. For me love is like saying, "I want to spend my life with you. I want you to be my side when I turn 25 years old as well as 75 years old. I want you to be my side when I am in hospital bed spending the last few hours of my life. I want my life to revolve around you. I want to spend all my happiness with you."

75% love failures are because of the parents in India.

Even the so called civilised society has many unwanted qualities required to marry their child like caste, colour etc.

I am not asking people to marry without parent's approval. I am asking them to make them understands your love.

If your mother comes one day and says don't talk to your father, will you stop talking?

You won't. You will say he is your family too. You will make your parents realise their importance.

Why don't you do it in love too?

Why do you choose one? Make them realise your feelings.

Many parents keep this as a test for you too.

Don't choose your family over her or her over your family. Make her a part of your family.

If your parents really love you then they will give up their decision to see you happy.

Just show that you love her deeply with everything in your heart.

Run, hide, do whatever you want to do to avoid love. If you are in love already, don't ever give up. Love till death.

I don't know much about life after death. If you can love after death too then keep on loving.

If I said anything wrong, I am sorry guys.

I tried my best in suppressing my views completely. I just showed my heart partially. I am crazier beyond safe zone in this topic.

This is not same in every case. This is just a generalised view.

I am trying hard to stay away too. I can wait for 70 years for a girl but I can't move on even if you give me 700 years so I am better away from love.

Don't hesitate to love. Don't break hearts of your family.

Spread love. Stay away from fake loves.

Love is pure.

Take care be safe and stay blessed.

-yagappar.