Hey I was wondering if you could give me some advice on a crush that I have. I'm not gonna say his actual name so let's call him Josh (Josh Dun |-/ sorry I'll continue) Josh and I have known each other for 3-4 years now. Ok let's start from the beginning. It'll make things clearer. I am German. In January 2014 my mum decided to move to Northern Ireland with me. My aunt, uncle and 2 cousins of mine already lived there for a year (and they lived in Scotland before that for a couple of years too so they're familiar with speaking English. Oh and my uncle is Scottish born) Anyway.

My mum is a single parents and I'm a an only child so it was just us two moving. We made the move on the 28th January 2014 and for the first couple of months we lived with my aunt and uncle. I enrolled in primary school sometime in February- March that year (I was 12 at the time and I couldn't go to secondary school just yet + it was better since I am German and I'd get into speaking English more fluently).

This is where my crush comes in. My school had two p7 classes, I was in the one with my crush Josh. I first developed a crush on let's call him Tyler (Tyler Joseph |-/ sorry...). Since I wasn't much of a girly girl, I mostly spend my one with boys. Tyler and I spend a lot of time together, with his friends too. We played tag and always teased each other. The end of the school year came around and before it knew it, it was already June. Both the P7 classes went on a residential for 3 days. I hadn't spent much time with the boys but instead with the girls. I shared a bedroom with 3 girls from my class so we decided to tell each other who we had a crush on. 2 of the girls told their crushes, then the third girl said her crush was Josh. Josh (my current crush).

I ignored the fact that she liked him because I hadn't really thought much of Josh then. Turns out they ended up 'dating' till the end of June (the time when everyone started applying for secondary school and knew where they'd go). Back to Tyler, he ended up going to a different school as me. I was heartbroken to hear and to make things worse he actually had a crush on me (ALL his friends told me like the last week of school). They said he was too shy, like me, to ask me out. Me being that shy, I thought they were only joking and it wouldn't matter anyway because he was going to a different school as me.

Now I don't have any sort of contact with Tyler. Only the memory of him and a couple of pictures. Back to Josh again. Turns out the girl he was 'dating' was going to a different school as him BUT Josh himself ended up going to the same school as me. He was in the same school school as me BUT not in the same class anymore. First year we did not talk much but I occasionally saw him looking at me and he'd smile and then look away. Second year was more less the same. Once I saw him at a shop and he saw me first so he came up and said hi, smiled and waved at me. Then left because he was shopping with his mum and little sister. Now in my third year I had already picked my GCSE's and just started them. Now that I have picked my GCSEs, I am in different classes with different people. One of my classes is science... My crush is in the same class. Now he has changed a lot because being 'cool' is so amazing and I only noticed this year how much I actually liked him. We still don't talk much but time to time he'd come up to me with his friends and tell me a joke to make me laugh. Point of this story is- do you think he likes me? He is kind a fuckboy but kinda not. I feel like he puts it on and pretends to be cool. I know he's very smart. I've seen it in primary. He even wanted to be an architect. He is basically throwing away his education but I still like him. Should I forget him?

Should you forget him? In my opinion- no. If you really like him, and now that you have a class together, there is more of a chance that you two will connect. But should you obsess over him? No. Don't let him throw away your education as well as his own; and also don't let his behaviour affect the way you act and feel. The best way to judge whether or not to spend any time on him is to talk to him more which can seem like a daunting thing at first, especially if you don't talk much now. Try and find excuses to talk to him, maybe ask him about a lab experiment you're doing in class, or approach him about the homework. Once you've gotten used to talking to each other, it will be easier to talking in an informal way about things other than school.

Don't spend all your time working out if you like him however as this will take so much time out of your studying. Take it from me, if I could redo my first year of GCSE work I would. I spent all my time obsessing over my argumentative friendship group and less time actually paying any attention to my teachers.

If nothing happens between you two in the next year, maybe it would be best to forget him. Always keep your options open, and never doubt yourself.