Warning ⚠️⚠️⚠️ talks about abuse and topics like it. 

Note please read, this is really important for this book and other books that I make that might be like this one. 

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Hello everyone😄. 

I'm so glad to be semi on this soulmate book for multiple reasons. One being that I have semi finished another one of my old books and made it better and that makes me happy since I can get it out to you. Two, I also liked this one very much and I’m glad to get it out to you all again.😄♥️. 

But there's a couple of things I would like to bring up before you all read my new book. (and maybe future books like this one)

So of course this is my slightly edited version of my old (Marvel, dc and Supernatural Crossover Soulmate book) When I was writing this book years ago I got comments based on the stuff I will be talking about. 

I will like to start off again and say that here's a warning ⚠️. 
Here is another warning for anyone reading this, so you can either leave or continue on with this note and even onto my book.

So the warning for this will be these. 

I will be mainly talking about Abuse. So please if topics like this trigger you, please leave my book. I would say in other books, just skip. But this book is about Abuse, mostly through, so… I don't know. Alongside talking about abuse, I may bring up suicide topics and other topics like it, again if these topics trigger you please leave.  

Ok.... 

So moving on here, I'm going to start off and state that this book does contain of abuse, violence, self harm, suicide themes, disorders, nsfw moments, dark themes and more. 

Again just to make sure, if you don't like what's up there, please just leave my book. Sadly this book isn't for you. 

There will be warnings at the top of the chapters if anything contains warning needing moments. It will tell what will or might happen in the chapter. Please if you don't like it please skip or leave. 

I will like to say that I am in no way promoting any kind of abuse, violence, suicide, SH themes. That's not my intention at all. 

I write to cope, I write these kinds of topics to cope with what I have gone and going through and it helps. 
I want to become a better writer and write darker and touchy topics. I take from my own experience and my family's experiences. I do my research before I write. I don't write blindly, I never do. 

Never write blindly about these topics, always do your research beforehand. 

So please remember that I know what I'm writing about, well I understand my own experience more than anything, but I did my research.

I understand how hard these topics can be. 

I have talked about these topics before in my other big note. 

Note. 
I like to state here too that if anyone needs to talk to anyone one I'm always here for you. 

So with saying that I want to move on and say this. 

Please understand that all victims of abuse, r**e, etc, have experienced it differently. 

These topics can also lead into suicide thoughts or events, depression, anxiety, ptsd, ED or drugs. 

All of these people dealt with it differently, they said things differently, their emotions were different, they moved differently, they screamed differently, they fought back differently, their reasoning of things were different, they stayed for different reasons. Their stories are DIFFERENT. 

So of course, understand that the situations are going to be different. 

So I want to state that please don't read and then comment about how my character should have told someone because it's 'easy'. 

Or "Just leave"

If it was easy for you I'm very happy for you. I'm so glad that you were able to go and find someone to help you. I'm glad you're safe. 

But just because it was easy for you or someone close to you to go tell someone about what happened, doesn't mean it's easy for everyone else. 

I'm perfectly fine if anyone wants to tell me their story, their experiences, just don't turn it into it was easy for them so it must be easy for my character to open up and tell someone. 

To say it's 'easy' is so invalidating. I wish it was easy for all victims to ask someone for help, but sadly reality it's not. Again I’m not saying it can't be easy, but most of the time it's not. 

There's no victim blaming allowed here. 

Most of the time the victims have a hard time telling others about the abuse that's going down. 
Good portion of the time with abuse it is very hard to get away from the abuser. 

These two topics are the main topics I will be talking about. 
Here are reasons why it's hard for victims of abuse in all sorts to tell or get away.  
(You can also search it up on Google about abuse victims and why they stay or other things about it, to understand it more) 
(I'll at times place my character, my oc between this to give more insight for my oc and to give a better example of what I'm talking about) 

(And, I've found a lot of these examples on Google, I've also have taken my family or my experience too, plus the stuff I've researched on Google) 

Ok. 

1. Normalization. 
The meaning of normalization is the process of bringing or returning something to a normal condition or state. 

So lets say and use my character Dove as an example, she has lived in a home that mental and physically abused her. She has grown up with it, so any abuse to her is basically called normal to her. She thinks it is normal and that it should happen to her.

So some examples of mental and physical abuse that anyone can normaliz.

Mental: being told your not enough, your fat, you eat to much, your skinny, you eat to little, your ugly, your never going to be good enough, your never going to be loved, your a waste of time and person, you should kill yourself, you should go die, your the reasons their dead, etc. (And sadly other things) 

Then also there's the manipulation between that. 

Physical: punching, kicking, pushing-shoving, choking, slapping, spitting on the person, hair pulling, poking really hard, throwing things, punishment for disobeying an order, etc. (And sadly other things) 

People who grew up from a young age and have experienced anything in that list (or even one I didn't list out) have normalized it. They think it's normal to be called worthless all the time, or shoved and kicked at the rib, they think it's all normal. 

They think it's normal to be beaten over a broken dish or not cleaning the dishes. To them it's normal, so when they break something their first thing they think about is that they deserve to be punished. 

It's never good to normalize these traits. It's bad, sadly though some people who have lived through it at a young age or older think it's normal. 

And to say it's their fault that they didn't get out or told someone is wrong, that's victim blaming. 

2, Minimization
This one comes close to normalization. 

The abuse may be recognized, but not really. 

Bullying is the best example for this one. It's like when the teachers know about the bullying that's happening around them, but they don't do anything about it. They just ignore it and push it to the side. 

It can even get worse if the person who's experiencing this is being abused by a family member. They have to go back there and live there until they can get out. They have to go back to that toxic environment everytime.

3, Shame
Many victims of abuse and other kinds of abuse think it's their fault that it's happening to them. In other words, they think they deserve it, at least to some degree. Moreover, many victims, for example sexual abuse victims, feel dirty, violated, broken, defective, unworthy of love, or empathy, or even of existing. With that they are ashamed of themselves and don't want to bring it to light, especially if they think it's their fault. 

Many things fall into that one. 

4, Fear 

The meaning of fear is this, an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. 

People who are victims in any kind of abuse usually don't like talking about their experiences because of the fear of what could happen to them or the people they care about. 

For example, children are frequently in a position where they depend on others for help or guidance. So they are unable to protect themselves or remove themselves from their abusive environment, whether their school, neighborhood, family, or all of it. 
This falls into the normalization and minimization, and shame part. 

For example, for adults, it's hard for adults who get abused by their boss or a colleague, or someone who has a lot of power and influence over them is extremely difficult to tell others about.
Sometimes there's not enough evidence to show about the abuse or there is enough, but sometimes like minimization happens and the person gets away with what they have done.

5, Isolation, betrayed, and lack of support  

Many abuse victims don't talk about being abused in any form because of the lack of support they have or the betrayal of others. 

Some are too scared to talk about their abuse because they might not be believed about. They may not be taken seriously, which leads to feeling betrayed either by an individual person, by the justice system, or by our society. 

Some victims tell family members about the abuse and they are either ignored, told to get over it and other things.

There's always a possibility of something bad happening and victims fall into the fear of everything. Fear of not being believed or getting hurt even more.  

This falls into the normalization and minimization, shame and fear part. Then also there's the manipulation between everything that's happening. 

6, Reasoning for staying. 
And 
Fawn trauma "fawning"

Reasoning for staying can be for a lot of reasons. 

Like Normalization, Minimization, fear, Shame, Isolation, betrayal, and lack of support. 

Children can’t leave as easily as a teenager or an adult can. They're too young to pick where they live. 

Sometimes telling turns into family talks with teachers or someone else and that can be a very good thing or a bad thing. 

The good side would be that they are believed and were able to get away from the abuse, 
Or
The bad side would be that they minimize the situation and let them go home. That could go ok and or it could turn very bad. The kid could get hurt even more. 

Teenagers have a hard time but it's different-ish. 

Like I said up there, at times when people grow up in an abusive household it turns into normalization and even minimization of everything that's happening to them. 

Now I'd like to bring up the system. The system at times is not great whatsoever. Sometimes they will bring back the victim to the abuser, or send them to an even worse place. 

Bringing back a victim to their abuser would be the worst thing to do. That could bring the very, very, very, very worst out of the abuser and they would take it out on the victim. 

So let's use Dove again as an example. 

Let's say she ran away home and got caught by the cops, since she is seventeen they mostly like, bring her back home or get the adult that’s taking care of her to come and pick her up. 

Doves dad's reactions of her trying to get away from him will make him go crazy and take out the anger he had towards her. The beating would probably be the worst she would have and that's even if she survives. 

So at times running away from home is not the best choice, staying is. 

So coming into my book or other books or going to someone and saying that it's easy for them to tell someone is so wrong and invalidates everything they have gone through. 

Saying that it's easy to go is wrong.

Because if anyone is trying to run away from the abusiver should have a plan. 

I want to say that if anyone is trying to get away from someone who is abusing them, make sure you have a plan. 
If anyone wants to know more about this statement, send me a message and I will write it down and post about it. 
I will probably make a note for everyone about it when I can, so I can help anyone who needs help. 
 
There are of course multiple reasons why people stay and if you want more, there's of course websites about it on google.

Now fawn also called "fawning" refers to a trauma response in which a person reverts to people-pleasing to diffuse conflict and reestablish a sense of safety. 

So let's use Dove for an example. 

Dove would rather do what her father asks of her because she knows if she doesn't do it-it would end in violence and more of a mess then before. 

If he says to clean the house, she will do it because the outcome of not cleaning the house can turn into violence. 

If he said go get groceries, she's going to do it because the outcome of not getting groceries can turn into violence.

They stay until they can get out, even if they become a person-please to get out.

Like I said before, if the child, young teen, or almost old enough teen grew up in an abusive family, they may normalize it or minimize it. They may become a person-pleaser so they don't get hurt. 

Some may not have anyone to go to for help, they may be too ashamed of themselves to go get help. 

So if you ever wonder why people don't go out and tell people about the abuse they have or going through here's some of the reasons why. 

SO PLEASE don't go through my book and say comments about how my character Dove should have told someone one because it's 'easy' and or she should have just left. Yeah, most of the time in these situations it's not that easy, I'm not saying it can't be easy because it can and I wish it can be easier than ever. But don't come into this book and say it should be 'easy' for my character or they should have left. Just don't. 

AND YES THIS CAN HAPPEN TO BOY/GUYS.

ONCE again I'm not promoting abuse, suicide themes and so on. I want everyone to be safe and healthy and know this and understand that my book will contain a lot of these topics. 

I want everyone prepared for this book or my other books. I want everyone to understand that everything is different, so no one should come in and say things that can invalid anyone. 

Now, 

Moving on. 

This is going to sound very hippocheterical but I explained what I explained up there because I had to explain it multiple times because of my character and I don't want to do it anymore. But like I was saying, 

If anyone is a victim of abuse or just needs to talk I'm always here for you. 

Yes, I do say that there are times where there's no one you can talk to for help, but there is always someone out there that will help you. If it's a friend, family member, OR especially someone across the world, there is always someone. That's why I say I sound hippocratic. 😅😖. 

They might not be close family members or friends or cops or teachers, etc. To ask for help, but there is always someone out there who would love to help you get out of any bad situation. 

Neighbor, store clerk, nurse, stranger on the sidewalk, wattpad friends, internet friends, doctor, cops, family members, teachers, friends, etc. It just might be someone you might not know. 

But please be careful. 

Moving on again. 

I also got comments about how my character should end up with one character or how old my character is. 

My books are polyamory/polyamorous Soulmate books. 

Polyamorous/polyamory means more then on partner. 

So not just 1, but multiple partners. 

This book contains of 25 soulmates, plus my character. Meaning this is a 26 polyamorous relationship book. 

If you don't like books like this then just leave my book and find something else to read, this book isn't for you then. 

Ok now... 🤔😶😑😵😓?🙃 

Ok this one is annoying since when I got these comments they knew the answer already. 😐 

Ok so my character is 17 almost, almost 18 years old. 

So commenting halfway through my book asking how old she is... 🤯😵. You already know this. 
Yes she's 17. 
Consent where I live is 16.
New York it's 17. 

This book is also fanfiction. 

The only reason why I got these comments is because of a makeout scene with my character and one of her soulmates. 😐... like I gave warnings for reasons. 

There's a note explaining important things to know about my books and if you don't read it, that's fine but it doesn't mean I don't have the note and Warnings notes published out there for you. 

If you skip the note and warning, again it's fine, but that's not my fault if you're taken back about what I write for. I have everything you need to know beforehand, I have warnings beforehand and if you skip over it, I'm not in fault there. 
If you skip any notes or warnings and dislike it just leave. 
This is a hard thing that half of my readers are going to skip over this note and other notes and that sucks, since there not going to see this 🤌🥺😕🙃 (Skipping notes are not bad, it's up to you and totally fine)

Once again I’m not promoting any kind of abuse, violence, suicide themes, disorders, depression, etc. This is a warning and explanation of things that I'm tired of explaining about in the comment section. 

Yes most of my books my character and her soulmates have an age gap but I would never make my character 15 years old or maybe even 16 years old. 17 and 18 are the youngest I'll go for. (To add on is I have an age gap kink so of course I'm going to write about it (and not in a bad way). I'm for sure not promoting anything, this is just fan fiction that lets me and others be themselves for a bit)  

In my books the age thing is different when it comes to soulmates. 

OF course if say my character met Tony Stark at age 14 or 15 their relationship would either be none existent or platonic until they are ready, like their relationship would be based on being best friends until they become lovers, mostly none existing until they see each other again.  

But you don't need to be worried about me when it comes to age and my character. I make sure they are almost 18 or 18 years old. Or even older.

Thank you to everyone that read this note and stuck through it. It really means a lot, I really appreciate it. 

I appreciate any authors' notes (not mine) because I appreciate them knowing they are doing their hardest to create their own work. Yes Skipping notes isn't bad at all, but reading them makes any author happy. 

Again I'm always here if you need anyone to talk too 😊😀♥️