"There’s power in disconnection. Separate yourself from the world for a while and soon you’ll figure out what’s feeding your soul, what’s entertaining your Ego and what’s nothing but a distraction. We allow ourselves to elevate, once we isolate ourselves."

Ever felt like you're not willing to speak to anyone? Ever been called rude or silent? Ever thought of cutting all your connections from outer world? If your answer is yes, you're getting disconnected from the world or into depression.

Sometimes when you feel like you're into some depression and share this with your friends, they will provide easy solutions like stop thinking about it or distract yourself. But do you think it's that easy? No, not at all. Many a times you need to consult a therapist for the same. But what if you cannot talk about this to your family and get medical help? The worst thing, right?

Unfortunately, many people or many students go through this phase where they are so disconnected from life but they cannot share it with their families. This short story is about one such guy and his feelings in this phase. Let us skip to the good part.

I have a friend named Bhavesh. One fine day, when I texted him he replied very coldly as if he was not interested to talk. I asked him is everything alright? He said yeah and just went away from the conversation. He and I had common friends. When I was speaking to my other friends about Bhavesh, they were like Leave him, man. He always does that. Ignore him and move on. He will be the same rude and silent freak. I asked them why are they saying so then I got a reply that "Whenever we call him for a trip , he ignores or rejects the plan. Whenever we try to talk to him he starts blabbering his problems. He doesn't even pick our calls. When we advise him ignore yaar and move on, he doesn't stop thinking about shit. We are his friends but we can't keep hearing him out day and night. And he's such a creep with lame jokes.  Nobody likes such people. That's why it's better to stay away from him." 

After hearing these replies, I understood the actual problem he was into. I talked to him about everything. He was still in a disconnected mood but replied me stating all his problems. He said he has a lot of restrictions so cannot even pick calls at home. He fears what his family will do with him if he shares anything which is not as per the family's culture. He can't even get frustrated because his family has gone through a lot and expects support atleast from him. Basically he belongs to a family full of expectations from him because they are doing this much for him. He doesn't care about not being accepted by the society but he cares about his family because he has seen them going through the worst days. This is the reason he cannot share his own things with his family. As per his family, friends only betray so he isn't allowed to keep friends and stay away from girls. He belongs to a place where he has more restrictions than girls normally have. In this deep situation, he just expects people to befriend him and trust him or just even hear him out. But people just think the opposite for him. He is thought to be the creep, a maniac and a headache for people. That's why he lost many of his friends. But I promised to stay with him and hear him out and assured him that he can let his heart out on this chat wall and nobody gets to know it except both of us.

My question to the readers is, if in case you come across such a situation or a person going through such a situation, what would you do? Hear Bhavesh out as I did? Or will you think like the people of the society and turn up against him thinking him to be a creep?

It's not easy to stop thinking about the things by just saying , brother move on everything will be fine. But only the overthinkers know that how hard it is not to think about the situation. This is what makes the overthinkers disconnect from the outer world.

If I get stuck in such a situation where I can't share things with family and when I feel such disconnectedness from outer world, I would disconnect, take a break, do my favourite thing and return back because I have a lot of things to do ahead in life to make my parents proud of me. So, let's support such disconnected people and show them the correct way if you feel they're a bit lost with life. Even if they be rude and arrogant , we should try to understand them and their situation and still help them because you never know that you're the one whom he trusts a lot more than others in life and you may be the one who was with him in his toughest phase.

I would end this short excerpt by a famous quote, "Sometimes you gotta stop worrying, wondering and doubting. Have faith that things will work out. Maybe not how you planned. But how they were meant to be."