Welcome to class.

Flirting is basically just sexual tension.

Like I have been saying since the beginning of this book, the difference between a 'female friend' and a 'girlfriend' is simply "sexual tension" because it is in every sense completely true.

Now, the best way to actually flirt is doing it minimally. That is without it being too much and too obvious.

Flirting should not be exaggerated, little traces should be found in body language, eye contact, bodily contact, conversations.

Flirting can also be done when you aren't speaking at all, that is when you can feel his eyes on your from across the room but you pretend like you aren't, then you show a little bit of skin, like your legs or smile at something on your phone so he'll wonder what's making you smile.

This is obviously a soft girl's guide after all that's very much embarrassment proof so you know I preach moderation.

In other to get the best results you have to understand "Balance"

So let's begin shall we?

HOW TO FLIRT

First of all, you have to understand where your strengths lie and what kind of guy you are talking to, that's why the observation step is so important.

What I mean by where your strengths lie is what type of girl are you?

This is important because flirting is a state of mind.

You have to mentally picture yourself as the most alluring person on the planet.

I am more confident in the siren type than doe-eyed, that is I am lean more towards sexy or tempting than cute or innocent looking but depending on the guy I am talking to I usually go between the two.

That brings me to the type of guy you are talking to.

Some guys are literally just out there with everything, a complete tease of a man that isn't  afraid of talking dirty and saying the most unhinged things so you know for these type of guys to keep the flirting fun,  which is why siren and sexy does the trick.

Others however are a bit more guarded and serious, these are your typical innocent guys that haven't been absolutely corrupted by the world  so you know that you can't just come in their faces with a whole lot.

You have to take it easy, slowly and calmly which is why doe-eyed and cute works best, a sprinkle here and there.

You are probably wondering why I am talking about siren eyes or doe eyes right?

Well that's because I have actually found that when you are really determined to flirt, you have to actually mentally imagine and project your eyes in this way.

I'll explain further.

SIREN & SEXY

Flirting 101

A siren woman is a a seductively beautiful or charming woman, especially one who beguiles men, that is she is alluring, which is why flirting with this state of mind is done when the guy is more open to the sexual tension and isn't afraid to go there fully.

To give the siren look or to project it all I really do is mentally picture it but i have found that I don't open my eyes as much, like it is slightly closed, almost like when you are about to fall asleep.

Then your words are slower than usual. Now remember that you have to do these things as causally as possible because it can get pretty weird when it's obvious.

When actually doing the siren and sexy play, which is basically just teasing, saying all the things he wants to hear but never actually let him get too close.

Why?

It's because he is already so unhinged and in your face with it, giving him what he wants is not an option. This is when playing hard to get comes in.

This type of flirting is done for a short while, that is maybe around 10 minutes or even shorter, then you absolutely cut it off.

Why you are probably asking again?

Simple, like I always say there is a thing line between 'love and lust'

You are just letting him know you can go there but obviously you won't go there .

A little taste here and there that will  leave him wanting more.

When it comes to 'Moderation' in flirting, it's about two things.

1) When it starts going from full on 'sexual tension' to plain 'lust' which is bad by the way.

2) What you are comfortable with because we are talking about the guy but remember that you also have your own reservations so never go beyond what you are actually comfortable speaking about.

There are times when the guy just starts really getting into it and it gets uncomfortable, I just laugh and change the topic.

If he isn't getting the messages I will legit say "stop lol" if it's by text, in person however, I will literally laugh and just walk away.

  HOW TO INITIATE FLIRTING IN THIS STATE (SIREN)

First things first, most of the time, it's usually the guy that should start it cause you don't want to seem like you are easy or something.

The trick is to initiate it without it seeming like you are and you can do that with literally how you are dressed.

If you look good, a guy will naturally want to flirt with you, if he is that type of guy of course.

From just talking about something normal, he might say something like "you look nice today."

Then of course you want to follow that up with a teasing question. "Hmm, really?"

Well most guys just say "yeah" after that.

Then you can follow up with "thanks, I felt your eyes on me."

If it's in person that this conversation is happening, this would be the point where you really lock eyes, like just be right there with it.

The conversation usually progresses from there and the flirting begins but if he doesn't, you can continue it by complementing him as well, saying something along the lines of, "You know you have really nice eyes."

Remember say it slowly and always maintain eye contact with the state of mind you are mentally picturing.

The energy you are giving out is what he is going to give back so let it flow through you.

You are successfully flirting and doing it casually.

After that, the flirting should be going back and forth, of course I can only give you guides and caution, I can't anticipate what he would actually say.

Two things to remember, don't let it get too much and don't let it go on for too long, just enough to leave him wanting more.

Once you have completed that, I recommend not flirting or even paying any attention to him for like a day or two.

What you are basically doing is making him want your attention, remember playing hard to get.

That will be all for this class.