Jk this is gonna be long

But it's just a sort of 'for the record', so I know we're all on the same page

Anyone remember when I identified as gender fluid?

Even tho it prolly doesn't seem like it, that was a low point.

My dad had made me so fucking insecure about my gender, that I thought I had to be feminine to be a girl, and therefore I had to identify as something else because I didn't fit that mould.

But equally, don't go shitting on my dad. He's my father, and I love him, and despite all the bad stuff this has brought on me emotionally, it's like getting angry at a 2 year old for not knowing their times tables (hell, I'm 13 and they aren't really all memorized)

Now, I'm.. Comfortable with being female, however I feel no 'commitment' to that identity

If given the option, I'll always choose not to put male or female

So, whilst I'm ok with she/her pronouns, and I get they're a helluva lot easier, I prefer they/them

Now, if you (understandably) don't wanna adjust your sentence structures, she (or even he) is fine.

But just know that's my preference, not because I dislike she/her, but because they/them makes me feel happy.

But, if you don't mind, avoid referring to me as a 'girl'. The word makes me cringe.
Hey, you can even call me a woman if you want (idk why you would), but girl I just dislike. Intensely.

I think the word for this is gender indifferent? Idk.

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The next thing is my sexuality.

As you undoubtedly know, I identify as gay.

But I do not identify as homosexual. I'd like to make that clear.

Same goes for the word 'lesbian', which is too gendered and too specific for me.

I know for a fact that I'm not just attracted to girls.

I'm also like 98% sure I'm not heterosexual.

Right now, if I had to use labels I'd choose pansexual homoromantic -- an attraction to all genders, but only the desire to date those of the same sex.

So, when I say gay, I mean the umbrella term that covers everything lgbt, ok?

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So, advice

You hoes seem to think I'm good at giving it

Just know I'm always here to talk about whatever

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And, finally, I'd like to speak about how people speak to me

Usually I'm literally the most mellow person. If you insult me, you won't get anything from it
(Insulting others is another matter)

This nay not be obvious since online I make a joke out of it, yknow?  Pretend it's bigger then it is

But recently, I've noticed people (multiple people, but of course I'm not gonna name anyone) seem to think it's ok to be actively rude to me, even when I'm doing nothing wrong at the time

I don't complain much, and when I do its about stuff irl because if I try to rant to people then, I feel bad for bringing the mood down so I trivialize my problems

That means online is the only place I can open up

But it's a horrible feeling when people are treating you like a fucking idiot because of a mistake, or sometimes even something you had no way of knowing or guessing.

So, usually I wouldnt protest

But now it's at a point where I  am

Nobody likes being yelled at or treated like a toddler. I get enough of that already.

So when you're ready to treat me like a human, and not just the comedic character in a TV show who gets degraded constantly, lemme know.